Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Parsley, Sage, Rosemary and Thyme: A Love Story ~

 

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Are you going to Scarborough Fair?
Parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme,
Remember me to one who lives there,
For once she was a true love of mine."
What are these lyrics about? Are they a spell? Are they a warning? For what seems on the surface to be a perfectly innocent folk song turns out to be riddle of devilish complexity. Nevertheless, we as herbalists are in a prime position to figure it out.
Let's reconstruct: First, the hero of the song gets a third party to take a lengthy message to his ex-lover who lives in another town. In this message, he instructs her to perform 5 impossible tasks as prerequisites to getting him back. It's everything from sewing a shirt with no seams to finding him some land between the sand and the sea. So much for the idea that this is a straight-ahead love song. Have her make me a cambric shirt, indeed. Does he love her, or is he kissing her off?
Pondering this question, the modern herbalist noticed that in between all this dictatorial preaching was the refrain 'parsley, sage, rosemary, and thyme.' Aha, perhaps there is the clue to his meaning. Here's how the song ends:
"If she tells me she can't, I'll reply,
Parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme,
Let me know that at least she will try,
And then she'll be a true love of mine.
Love imposes impossible tasks,
Parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme,
Though not more than any heart asks,
And I must know she's a true love of mine.
Dear, when thou hast finished thy task,
Parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme,
Come to me, my hand for to ask,
For then thou art a true love of mine."
In short, it seems like all she has to do if she wants him back is perform a few garden variety, herculean tasks of the sort usually doled out by Zeus or unusually mean witches. Begging the question of why she's in Scarborough Fair to begin with if she likes him even a little bit.
Looking deep into the magical lore currently available on the Internet, the modern herbalist discovered much about parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme that she did not previously know.
* For instance,
- Thyme: Girls once used thyme sprigs in ceremonies to discover the identity of their true loves. A more upscale lady of Medieval times would embroider a flowering thyme sprig along with a visiting bee as a token to be given to a favoured knight. A woman wearing thyme was once held to be irresistible.
- Sage: Sage was once used to help childless couples conceive, and is associated with wisdom and longevity in plant lore. It was also used magically to honour weddings and to ensure domestic harmony.
- Rosemary: Was once held to represent love and faithfulness. The plant was used in wedding ceremonies in place of rings as a sign of fidelity, and carried by newlyweds and wedding guests as a charm for fertility. But it also has the meaning of remembrance, as Shakespeare noted in Hamlet 'there's rosemary for remembrance.' Often used in love potions, it is also said to attract elves.
- Parsley: It was once believed that only witches and pregnant women could grow this herb--Sow parsley, sow babes, was an old expression. The herb has been associated with witchcraft in England and also with death since ancient times. But more importantly, it is said to provoke lust and love.
So given this new information, one might perhaps construct a scenario such as the following:
Our hero has been dumped by Scarborough Fair. She is no longer interested in him, and has in fact left him for another. Our hero is in denial of these basic facts and when he hears that his best friend is coincidentally going to see Scarborough Fair, he gives him a message to pass on to her. He tells her that her chances of getting him back are nil unless she can prove her love for him by doing impossible tasks. Of course she can't prove her love, not on these terms, but this fact is lost on our hero.
Or maybe not. He also passes along a little metaphorical token of his feelings in the form of the bouquet: parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme. Keeping in mind the available lore, here is one possible translation:
- Thyme: I'm yours.
- Sage: I'm dependable.
- Rosemary: Remember me.
- Parsley: I want to make babies with you.
Ok, we get it now. This is no ordinary posy, this is love magic.
Here's where he's at: he knows she's in love with someone else, and there's no way of getting her back. But he's still in love with her, and he's also bitter that she left him. Does he want her back? You bet. Does he think he has a snowball's chance in hell of doing so? No way. So he decides to send her a double-edged message. On the one hand, it's a kiss off. Prove your love and then maybe I'll marry you. Oops, you can't prove your love. This saves him in the event that she really doesn't want anything to do with him. On the other hand, it's also leaving the door open: Let me know that at least she will try, And then she'll be a true love of mine. There he's letting her off easy.
Which brings us to the third party. Who is this middle man, anyway? Can he be trusted? How do we know that it isn't the messenger who is alienating her affections? And of course we have no way of knowing how our heroine in absentia is going to take this strange message. Given the times, she probably has a good laugh, in bed with her lover like a character out of a French epistolary novel. But anything is possible. The herbs do not speak of her. Or more accurately, the herbs are her, or at least a reflection of who our hero wants her to be. Will he get her back? I guess it depends on whether or not he picked the right herbs--or the right woman.
* The Modern Herbalist's Scarborough Fair Love Formula and Ritual
First, brew a good pot of tea using the four essential herbs for drawing good, complex, cosmic love to yourself. These would be parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme, which you can even buy fresh at most organic groceries. Dried is good too. Put equal parts of all four into your tea, and feel free to embellish with rose buds, spices, and the like for romantic oomph. Set your pot to steep.
Take a nice bath, with candles and bath salts. Light incense. Revel in your wet nakedness for a while (but not too much -- you still have a ritual to perform). Put on a sexy, goddess-evoking robe and have a seat somewhere comfortable. Make sure your tea is at hand, along with spoon and honey, as well as any snack items that might need to be consumed.
Finally, light a candle of the colour that represents your desired lover. Is he hot? Make it red. Is he cool? Make it blue. You'll know the right colour to use. And finally, visualize. This will be difficult for some of you, no doubt, but try... Ok, you've done the magic part. Now drink your tea (or magic formula in this case) and eat your snack. Thank the powers that be.

(Information courtesy of gardenerspath.com)

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